When you’ve spent so long looking after everything else, it’s hard to know what you want for yourself.
You may be coping on the outside while feeling anxious, overwhelmed, self-critical or lost underneath. Therapy can give you space to understand what you’re feeling, reconnect with what matters to you and begin making choices that feel true to you.
Welcome to The Online Therapy Space
Many of the people I work with feel like they’ve been managing life on the outside for a long time, while internally experiencing anxiety, self-doubt, or emotional overwhelm that doesn’t fully settle.
Welcome
You might be someone who is used to coping. You take responsibility, look after others, keep things moving and try to do the right thing.
But perhaps you’re beginning to realise that somewhere along the way, you’ve lost touch with yourself.
Do you find yourself asking:
What do I actually want?
Why am I so hard on myself?
Why is it so difficult to say no?
What would happen if I allowed myself to change?
Perhaps you recognise yourself…
You know what you should do, but not what you want.
You’ve become very good at doing what is expected of you, but you’re finding it harder to hear your own voice.
You find it difficult to put yourself into the equation.
You care about other people, but your own needs often come last.
You’re constantly second-guessing yourself.
You question your decisions, criticise yourself and worry about getting things wrong.
You’re changing — and you’re worried about what others will think.
Part of you knows something needs to change, but another part fears disappointing people or taking your eye off the ball.
Holding space for yourself
Perhaps you’ve spent years being there for everyone else — as a partner, parent, professional, provider, friend or family member.
You know how to think about what everyone else needs.
What can be harder is asking:
What do I need?
What do I feel?
What do I want?
Therapy can give you the space to explore those questions without immediately turning them into another set of “shoulds”.
In therapy, we can explore:
Your feelings — understanding what you’re actually experiencing rather than immediately pushing it aside.
Your boundaries — learning to recognise and communicate what is okay and what isn’t.
Your inner critic — challenging the voice that constantly tells you that you should be doing more or doing things differently.
Your relationships — understanding patterns and finding ways of relating without losing yourself.
Your choices — separating what you genuinely want from what you think you should want.
Change — becoming more comfortable with the fact that you are allowed to change your mind, your priorities and your direction.
Self-trust — becoming able to make decisions and tolerate the fact that other people may not always agree.
Getting started
We start by understanding what’s bringing you to therapy and what you’d like to change or make sense of. From there, we work together in a way that suits you — whether that’s focusing on practical coping strategies, exploring deeper patterns, or a combination of both.
Therapy is at your pace, and we regularly review how it’s going so it continues to feel helpful.
Step One: Book Your Free Online Consultation
A short, informal online conversation where we can talk through what’s been going on for you and what you’re hoping to get from therapy. It’s a chance to ask questions and see whether working together feels like the right fit.
Step Two: Initial Consultation
A first 50 minute session to explore your concerns, clarify your needs, and determine the most appropriate therapeutic approach.
Weekly sessions are then offered at a consistent time to provide structure and continuity of care.
Step Three: Begin weekly therapy sessions
Ongoing weekly therapy sessions delivered securely online via Zoom, so you can join from wherever you are. Sessions take place at the same time each week to provide consistency and support steady progress as we work together on what matters to you.
My therapeutic approach
Therapy isn’t about me telling you what to do. My role is to help you slow things down, understand yourself more deeply and explore what is really going on beneath the surface. I work integratively, drawing on different therapeutic approaches depending on what is most useful for you.
In sessions, we may focus on:
- understanding what is contributing to current difficulties
- noticing patterns in thoughts, emotions, or relationships
- exploring how earlier experiences may still be relevant today
- developing more supportive ways of responding in daily life
- creating space to reflect, process, and make sense of things at your own pace
The balance of reflection and practical work will depend on what feels most helpful for you.